Techniques of Starting the Conversion.

A large component of your career success depends on other people. So communication and conversation is important toolkit for your success. Art of conversing is your key to corporate business, professional and social personality. Mastering art of starting and holding meaningful and interesting conversation will make your business, professional and social gathering, rewarding and interesting. In today’s modern world, there is no way to avoid contacting other people, every day. Techniques of starting conversions will help you to realise your full potential as a person.

What stops you from starting a conversation?

Many people are shy and not able to approach other persons and initiate conversation. If you know that starting a conversation with strangers is your weakness, It is important to analysis reasons behind the same and work on the same. It is possible that you may have low self-esteem and faith in self or you may have ego problem or higher complexes. You must work to be emotionally balanced. It shall never be too late. With practice and habit, it will be your second nature to start interesting questions. People will quickly realise that when you’re around, interesting conversations start .You will be welcomed wherever you go.

How to start conversation:

Anybody can learn the techniques of conversation. It is important to select the right questions. When there are just two of you are present, ask only those questions: that appeal to his interests or that lead into discussion about his hobby, make him/her talking about his job or question that compliment or appreciate him/her in some way. It is natural to wait until the other fellow first signals a willingness to talk by making positive replies and cheerful body language. Never ask question to strangers that pry into his personal life. You should avoid asking blunt questions.

When you are with group, You should ask select broad-based questions. Pick topics that Interests as many of group as possible and create lively discussion on that subject. You can choose to discuss about current non-political event, sports, and hobby or shared experience. You my also lead them into solving a problem. You have to speak long enough to get the conversation under way. Then you can sit back, listen, and let others do the talking.

Become good listener.

If other persons were talking, They should consider you a good listener even if you just smile, nod and say one or two words at the right time. He shall think well of you because he is obviously bursting with talk and want someone to listen to him. A good listening skill adds breadth to your life by making you welcome in almost in any conversation. It shall quickly become a natural part of your life.

Positive Attitude:

Popular conversationalists always think well about other people. They are aware that their positive attitude will be spotted and returned in kind. It is almost uncanny the way people spot how you felt about them and they will react to your feeling. Show friendliness and they will react it same way. Your conversation shall be boring if you bury your thoughts and feelings well deep inside and put on smile. But if you take a dislike to someone, he will surely spot it and immediately dislike you in turn. Try a more rewarding approach of just not bouncing some words but talking to everyone’s uniqueness as a person does.

Strangers are friends that you have yet to meet.
( Roberta Lieberman)

(By Duttkumar Desai: Soft skill Trainer,
Mentor and Founder of Parth Academy of Success.)
http://www.parthasuccess.com


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Set Goal For today and reap Success

It is alright to have long term single life goal or ambition.
But you must also set series of short term goal with a long-term perspective. You need to decide what to do today,tomorrow and this week. Break down the ultimate goal into series of small realistic time bound and flexible tasks . Then prioritise and act on the most important goal at a given point of time without losing your perspective.

Every individual has unlimited potential. What is needed are efforts for the realisation of the dream. Your imagination describes the limits of what you can do or
become . If you want to be Chief Executive of a Company, nobody can stop you from becoming one. However if you want to remain a clerk all your life a clerk you shall remain.

According to Dr. P. N. Singh , many are not able to achieve their full potential because they dissipate most of their energy in dysfunctional activities like : jealousy , Excessive competitiveness and Anger.

Last but not the least , you should not look at every goal in your life in a fragmented way.you should not ignore some other aspect of your life, specially your health and family. As Prof. Rooshikumar pandya tells, " You should perceive every goal in life holistically."


Author : Duttkumar Desai
Founder Director of Parth Academy of Success
http://www.parthasuccess.com/

Emotional Management and Positivity

It is not 'Something' or 'someone' who is making us feel positive or negative, but it is our 'acceptance' or 'non acceptance' of something or someone, which is making us feel positive or negative.

It isn't the world but the quality of our response to the world (acceptance or non acceptance) that determines the quality of our emotions.

Next time we feel disturbed with a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing us, we will examine who or what we are resisting (not accepting) that is causing this disturbance in us. We will replace resistance (non acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one.


Emotional management begins by stopping to blame that 'something' or 'someone' and starting to take the responsibility to respond to life with 'acceptance' .

Actions follows positivity.

Why do we react ? We react because we desire one thing and not another. Reactions are result of identification with negativity and dislikes.

If we just revolve around our likes and dislikes, actions and reactions , desires and rejections all our life. It means we have not learned in life .We have not moved up or progressed by an inch.

This positivity has to be expressed in every situation whether it is an exam,
a human relationship, social living or reclusive living.

It has to be experiential understanding of the process that leads to self-development and infuses one with contentment, peace and tranquillity.

We go through various experiences ,some good ,some bed . Whenever we react,
it is bad experience and whenever we accept and act, it is positive experience.

If We want to succeed in life , we must focus on positivity and acceptance.

*** "If We want to succeed in life , we must focus on positivity and acceptance."

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Stress Management

The is the non-specific response of the body to any demand made upon it.
Dr. Hans Selye , M.D .

Stress can be usefully defined through its physiologic correlates,
particularly elevations in blood pressure. Elevated blood pressure is
consistently related to environmental situations that require behavioural
adjustment by the individual and thus may be described stressful. The
behavioural adjustments associated with socio-economic mobility ,cultural change,urbanization and migrations are examples of such environmental
situations.
_ Dr. Herbert Benson ,M.D.


Five Most Important work Factors
contributing to Stress

1. Don't know the opportunities for advancement or
promotion.

2. Not Aware of how supervisor evaluates performances.

3. Job Interfaces with personal life.

4. Lack authority and influence needed to carry out
responsibilities.

5. Workload too heavy .

Stress is the major problem in today's world. These are a few trips
to set you on path of a stress free life .

1. Take Some Exercise:
You must spare twenty minutes for exercises like
walking, jogging, cycling, swimming, walking or anything
else .It is great way to shake of negative effects of stress.

2. Meditation :

Just 10 minutes of meditation every day will help you avoid the negative effects of stress and improve your clarity of focus.

3. Deal With Your Problems :

It is normal habits of the people to have ostrich approach and
stick their head in the sand and hope that the problem go away.
Don't let problems in your office and home pilling up. By dealing with them,
you are removing sources of stress for you.

4. Use Relaxation Music :

There are a lot of music CD's that are specially designed
to help you relax and let go of stress. You can choose either just
music or guided relaxation or just music to drift to by yourself.
It will help you to relax and feel more calm. You can use any time incl.
travelling time.

5. Know that you are stressed.

You should recognise when you are stressed so that you can deal
with it before it becomes a serious problem. When you are stressed out ,
you become short tempered and irritable.

6. Treat Yourself :

The tragedy is that people generally take more
care of their lifeless belongings , then do of their body and
mind. Treat yourself too. Get yourself flowers, nice food,
gifts as treat for you so that you enjoy yourself. Enjoy
one day picnic every month and atleast 15 days leave
to a calm resort.

7. Stop worrying about what others say .

Enjoy what you feel is right for you so long as
you don't hurt others.Don't worry about other people
approve of your actions.

8. Find Time for Yourself.

Last but not the least. With careers and family find time for yourself.
taking time out for you lets you relax and let go of the stresses in your
life. Relax whatever way you enjoy and like.

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Listen to Employees !!

Managers who listen to employees have a much more efficient workforce.
Communication is healthy for any relationship, and it is especially important in the context of managers and employees. There are many benefits to listening to employees. Employees are able to voice concerns and deal with them before they become lingering problems. They also feel valued which raises productivity and lowers turnover. In addition, the manager will have a firm grasp on how everybody feels. Lastly, once employees feel they have been heard, they become much more attentive and responsive to concerns the manager has.

Employees are people and, like it or not, people tend to keep their feelings about their job bottled up inside. They can be upset about something and the manager won’t even have a clue that anything is wrong. As a result, the problem festers as resentment and anger build up inside while productivity and motivation decline. The cure for this cancer is for managers to regularly schedule meetings to listen to employees about anything related to their jobs.

Communicating regularly with employees is much like periodically changing the oil in your car. If you don’t change the oil, unknown problems will begin to slowly build up before that dreaded day when you are stuck on the side of the road and have to call a tow truck. Just as taking your car in every three thousand miles to get the oil changed will help ensure your automotive machine is in top working condition, communicating with employees will help ensure that your human resources “machine” is in top working condition.

Most managers will probably say “Well, I have an open-door management policy. Employees are free to set up a time to talk to me anytime they want.” Although this is true, employees don’t think that you really want to hear what they have to say. Employees fear if they voice their opinions that the manager might become upset, label them a complainer, or do nothing about it. Therefore, regularly scheduled meetings would create an atmosphere where listening to employees is expected. This will give employees the extra nudge to speak up and say what they really feel.

During the meetings, managers should let the employee guide where the conversation goes. Questions should be asked to clarify exactly how employees feel and to obtain more detail when needed from employees who are not comfortable being direct. Managers should also listen without judgement and stay neutral. Employees should be heard without fear of being reprimanded. In addition, managers should never choose sides or ridicule another employee in the meetings. If that happens, employees will lose respect for the manager and also begin to wonder what is being said about them when the manager meets with other employees. Lastly, managers should take this whole process very seriously and not do it half-heatedly by seeming disinterested or not listening attentively. If managers approach the meetings in a phoney fashion, then the employees will become upset and not communicate their true feelings to the manager.

Managers should also listen to employees to get ideas on how to improve the business. Employees know more about their jobs than anyone else, but they are usually the last ones to be asked how things could be done better. Why managers don’t tap into the gold mine of ideas that employees possess is baffling. The only explanation is that these types of managers believe that they are the only ones who know how to improve the business. This is absurd because nobody has a monopoly on knowledge.

Besides being the experts at their jobs, employees can bring a fresh perspective to analyzing the problems of the business because they have a different set of life experiences. That is valuable. In fact, asking employees how to improve the business is tantamount to getting high quality management consulting advice. Why pay $100/hour for a professional opinion when your employees can give one to you for free? In addition, listening to the ideas that employees have will be a tremendous morale booster. Most workers would cherish the opportunity to give input on decisions that affect their jobs. The message being communicated from managers to employees is that “You are important and we value what you have to say.” That is one of the highest compliments that a manager can give an employee.
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Knowledge is power. Listen to employees.
By Gregory Blencoe

Successful Leadership Skills

Peter Druker On Leadership:

What Needs to Be Done. Successful leaders don’t start out asking,
“What do I want to do?” They ask, “What needs to be done?”
Then they ask, “Of those things that would make a difference,
which are right for me?” They don’t tackle things they
aren’t good at. They make sure other necessities get done,
but not by them. Successful leaders make sure that
they succeed!

They are not afraid of strength in others. Andrew Carnegie
wanted to put on his gravestone, “Here lies a man who knew
how to put into his service more able men than he was himself.”

Check Your Performance. Effective leaders check their performance.
They write down, “What do I hope to achieve if I take on this assignment?”
They put away their goals for six months and then come back and check their performance against goals. This way, they find out what they do well and
what they do poorly.

They also find out whether they picked the truly important things to do.
I’ve seen a great many people who are exceedingly good at execution, but
exceedingly poor at picking the important things.

They are magnificent at getting the unimportant things done.
They have an impressive record of achievement on trivial
matters.

Author : Duttkumar Desai:
Founder Director of Parth Academy of Success
http://www.parthasuccess.com/

Networking and Success in Career and Profession.

A large component of your career success is based on other people.
Ofcourse, you have to be proficient in what you do. We all know
that today business is highly competitive. Many professionals and
businesspersons are highly competent, well trained, dedicated but
still fail or failed to advance to their full potential because
they lack skill of focused networking.

The making and developing potentially useful contacts and building
relationships with individuals, groups and organisations is important
and integral factor for success of business, profession or career.
But networking does not mean interacting with everyone and anyone with
whom you come in contact. Not so, networking should be with purpose.
It should be focused networking. You should never deviate from your goal
of growth as advancement of your business, profession and career.

If you can have all you need to make your talent or services marketable,
you can command success.

Networking is making potentially useful contacts and building relationship
with individuals, groupsprofessional and trade associations for specific
purposes of advancement of career, business andprofession. It is not
isolated activity but integral part of business and career plan.


Networking is process of meeting people and determining mutual needs
so as to fulfil mutual goals. It involves the exchange of ideas,
resources and contacts between two or more people.

The effectiveness of that exchange can greatly increased by using a
simple strategy when forming networking circle.It is continuous process
of sharing information and favours.


Successful networking begins with defining your purpose and objective
of networking. The objective of networking can be achieved through guided
thoughts and directions. You have to work systematically to achieve them.

Networking is about connections. For the purpose of advertisement
in career, business or profession ,making contacts and connections
that brings you customers. It is developing ,maintaining and growing
contacts and connections for growth of business ,profession and career.

Author : Duttkumar Desai:
Founder Director of Parth Academy of Success
http://www.parthasucess.com )

Assertion On The Job

Assertive means your ability to act in harmony with your
self esteem without hurting the others. You should not manipulate
others nor you should be manipulated by others.

To be assertive in your job or profession, You must
possess active orientation and set goals that enhance your self-esteem.
In the job , the first priority is to complete the job and accomplish
the task. The aim is achievement and accomplishment. The stress in
the feeling you express there is more on appropriateness then openness.

In the pursuit of job goals, you remain an individual,
relating to , but separate from, others. The work itself becomes
an extension of yourself , expressing something of you - your
style, your speed , the way you meet on-the-job problems.
The more assertive you are in relation to work and more willing
to show " this is me ", the more satisfaction you gain. When the
structure of the job or your own psychological blocks prevent this ,
resentment and alienation occur.

Assertion on the job involves five basic skills :

1. An active Orientation : You must think through
your work goals, the steps you must take to achieve them, and how ,
in doing this, you can utilise your talents to the fullest possible
extent.

2. Ability to Do The Job : Interference , obstacles
and blocks sometimes arise in the work situation because you have not
mastered the skills you need for your particular job. In addition ,
you may have problems with self-control.You may possess bad work habits,
lack discipline and the ability to concentrate.

3. Control of your Anxieties and Fears:

Inappropriate emotional reactions interfere with work performance.
General tensions can produce fatigue, irritability, and poor
judgement. Fear of specific work situation that may lead to
avoidance of the very task needed to get your job done.
This may keep you from achieving your work goal.

4. Good Interpersonal Relations on the Job:

Lillian Roberts,personnel counsellor observed: Most
people get fired because they can't get along with
other people. You must be able to relate to peers,
subordinates, and superiors, make requests and ask
favours; say no when necessary , handle put-downs.

5. The Art of Negotiating the System:
This requires knowledge of the job society and the specific skills
that will enable you to work within, through , or against it to achieve
your particular goals.

( Author : Duttkumar Desai:
Founder Director of Parth Academy of Success
http://www.parthasucess.com )

Why Successful People Succeed !

Why Success People Succeed !
Firstly remember all successful people in the world were

(1) Not the people with high degrees. Some were college
drop out.


(2) Not born rich with silver spoon in their mouth.

(3) Many of them had not great physical personality .

(4) They had experienced many failures before
they achieved towering success.

What all of them had in common.

(1) Self Confidence and will power.

Go getter and I can do attitude inspite of all
odds and adverse circumstances.

(2) Focus of the laser beam.

The Sun has thousands of kilowatts of energy, yet you can protect yourself from its power with a simple umbrella. The laser beam, on the other hand ,with only a few kilowatts of energy can drill a diamond or even wipe out cancer.

(3) Insight into self.

Insight into other people. Insight into Human motivation. what people value most. How can you make them what you want.

(4) Effective Communication and
Listening Skills.

They have sight on their definite goals.Not just a wish list but blue prints of Practical action plan. Blue Prints of short term and Long term plans.and knows how to stay motivated.

(5) Clarity of Priorities .
They are clear about their defined dream, purpose and priorities. What is important and who is important. Invest time on the right thing.
Control Your time! Control Your Life !


# Stay Focused like Laser Dream.